Family Drama Rama: Whose Your Daddy!

Before we get to all the oh so fun stuff, let me start with a little background information. The following conversation took place today, father's day. This is not the first post/comment/ect that has been made about this subject. "Audi" is my grandmother Audrey, my father's mother. She is the one who got "Paul" our bio father back into the cult of Jehovah's Witnesses.

Paul walked out of my sister's life way before mine, and when she was very young. The reason?  Because she did not want to be involved with my father's "religion". When I was 16 and got disfellowshiped for having a boyfriend he proceeded to do them same with me. Josh has always been in the picture since him and my mother got together. He was there through think and thin. While my father paid child support he did not support us in any other way. Nor did he ever do anything extra for us money wise either.

This all started because my sister and I wrote posts on facebook about father's day. Simply saying with loved our dad, Josh and are lucky to have him. Then this happened. 

Like I said we did not bad mouth Paul in any way, all we did was post about Josh. Also note that she only posted three of son's names and she has 5. All of who have abandoned their kids a some point in their lives. In fact two of them have remarried and had other kids and have zero contact with their "old" kids.

This is when she deleted our comments, and wrote a while big thing that I of course forgot to expand. She also deleted me from facebook. Basically when she says in the comment is that the things in the house, and the money that paid for the house was hers. My mom left my father for Josh, and Paul did the best he could under the circumstances. 

This is 100% false. The money for the house was from Paul's father will when he died. It was all suppose to go to him, instead she had the will changed so it all went to her. The only thing she  did was give the down payment for the house, which she later sued for. The furniture was all a gift otherwise why would it be in the house? and my mom did not leave Paul for Josh, they were married for 10 years and had a crap load of problems. They bother dated before they divorced officially so it is a moot point. And Josh is the one paying for the house now, along with providing for his family. 

This is were our cousin Jesse jumps in. We are not close, in fact I do not think we have seen him since we were small children, so he does not know the situation. Notice how defensive Audi is when she thinks the comment is made in regards to her.

Yes everyone makes mistakes but walking away from your kids is a CHOICE not a mistake. It should not be about religion but the sad fact is that it is. Ask him what he would do if his children are disfellowshiped in the future? He will walk away too, that is what Jehovah's Witnesses command. So you end up losing your family, friends, everything. You can not even walk away because if you do that you will be considered dis-associated. Which has the same consequences as being disfellowshiping. 

As for the last comment, I have moved on long ago. I am not longer angry at Paul. He is brainwashed like they are. But what pisses me off is good old grandma saying crap about my father!

Once again I forgot to expand. But basically it is Woe is Audrey. She goes on talk about how her father supposedly did not pick her up from the hospital until she was 3 weeks old, how her mom and dad hated her. blah blah blah. So it is not really about her son, it is all about her.

She does not fight for her kids. She bad mouths them to each other and the grand kids. One minute she is defending Paul the next she is telling me how selfish he is. She was never a "good" mother. All her kids have said so, she was a drunk and very neglectful. Which is why all her kids are screwed up. One is a druggy, a couple are crazy. one was an elder then got the position taken away for wrong doing, and all have become horrible parents. 

Clearly she is not stable, as she is throwing things over an conversation. No she is not being funny, she is serious. I have seen her do this before. 

Pretty much my sister hits the nail on the head. We turned out great thanks to our parents, and grandmother Mamie. We are ending the cycle and will be amazing parents to our kids. We are both doing great in life, and that alone speaks volumes. So as of this time I am washing my hands of all this drama. Why post you say? Well I want people to see what happens in JW families. How this cult tears families apart. Also since she felt the need to delete everything I want to show the truth of what was said, and how she is wrong to be blame full  of a man who has raised her granddaughters extremely well.